A sports psychologist once told me to plan something fun to do after a race so that no matter the outcome of the race, I have something to get my mind off things. My old coach, Hobie, told me to wear my Wonder Woman costume and cheer on the kids at the kids race, which he knew would be meaningful to me and make me smile.
This got me thinking of a list I’ve never seen but that could be valuable…
How to Fail Gracefully
1) Despite failing (real or perceived), finish the race/project/speech, etc. as well as possible. In other words, don’t quit just because you’re falling short of your goal. Shift your mindset, pivot, and finish with your best.
2) Congratulate the winner (if it is a competition), and be genuine – they worked hard, too.
3) Allow yourself to grieve the loss of achieving the goal. If you truly went for it, you’re going to feel disappointed. Let the sadness hit ya, cry it out, etc. Talk with a partner or friend. Express frustration. It’s all normal and healthy.
4) Take care of yourself – eat, drink, shower – even if it takes effort to get off the pout couch.
5) Sleep, and if you can – don’t set an alarm. It may take awhile to fall asleep, as thoughts and analyzations race through your head (a meditation app can help) and getting a full night’s sleep recharges emotional batteries.
6) Wake up with a mantra that challenges you to have the best day possible. Let go of the idea that you disappointed people. People just want to see you happy, and there was never assurance that hitting the goal was going to make you happy anyway. Remember, “happiness is an inside job.”
7) Pick a new goal you’re excited about and get after it. If it’s the same goal as before, analyze how you can go for it better and take action toward that new plan right away. (Need to work on grip strength? Join that climbing gym! Need to work on presentation skills? Hire that speech coach!)
I thought I had to win a world championship to write my own book/make a course/catapult my public speaking career on how to have a Winner’s Mindset, but perhaps what the world could use is a book called “Loser’s Mindset: How to stay energized and focused after falling short of a goal.”
How’s that for a pivot? J I’m proud of myself. Today is turning out to be a wonderful day already! Thanks again for all the unconditional love and support, everyone!
Ever want something really badly, and go after it with all you’ve got, only to come up short?
I have, many times. And today, unfortunately for me, was no exception…yet despite feeling disappointed, there’s always a sense of accomplishment that comes with committing to a goal, regardless of the outcome.
After going out strong and poised today, in the small lead group at the top of the big hill, nearly halfway through the race, I got a little hung-up on a funky strength-based obstacle (La Gaffe) but made it through and raced on with determination, still in the top four.
At a new ninja-based obstacle called DropZone, I took a risk to make up time and attempted to lache through it rather than monkey-bar it. It worked, until it don’t. I fell of near the end, my arms pumped, tried again right away and fell right off again. 😩
As I felt my big goal slip from my grasp, I closed my eyes and took a deep breath, shifting my mindset to finishing as well as I could, no matter the current circumstance, seeing it as a chance to practice the life skill of pivoting. 👍
With newfound energy, I took my friend on the sideline’s advice and persevered through the obstacle with a new technique, and then raced my heart out to run down the person in front of me.
Although it’s easy to think that I did not train that hard all year to finish in seventh place, I also have enough respect for the women from around the world who finished ahead of me to know that seventh is still something to be proud of.
Congrats to everyone who raced, especially Kris Rugloski (3rd), Lindsay Webster (2nd), and Ida Mathilde for bring him gold! I’m happy for you three.
Ever want something really badly, and go after it with all you’ve got, only to come up short? 💚
I have, many times. And today, unfortunately for me, was no exception…yet despite feeling disappointed, there’s always a sense of accomplishment that comes with committing to a goal, regardless of the outcome. 👍
After going out strong and poised today, in the small lead group at the top of the big hill, nearly halfway through the race, I got a little hung-up on a funky strength-based obstacle (La Gaffe) but made it through and raced on with determination, still in the top four.
At a new ninja-based obstacle called DropZone, I took a risk to make up time and attempted to lache through it rather than monkey-bar it. It worked, until it don’t. I fell of near the end, my arms pumped, tried again right away and fell right off again (overconfident that my recent bout with golfers elbow hadn’t affected my overall strength and grip endurance very much). 😩
As I felt my big goal slip from my grasp, I closed my eyes and took a deep breath, shifting my mindset to finishing as well as I could, no matter the current circumstance, seeing it as a chance to practice the life skill of pivoting. 👍
With newfound energy, I took my friend on the sideline’s advice and persevered through the obstacle with a new technique, and then raced my heart out to run down the person in front of me. 💥
Although it’s easy to think that I did not train that hard all year to finish in seventh place, I also have enough respect for the women from around the world who finished ahead of me to know that seventh is still something to be proud of. 😊
Congrats to everyone who raced today, especially @krisruglowski (3rd), @lindsaywebster (2nd), and @idamatilde for bring him gold! 🏆 I’m happy for you three.
“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you land among the stars.” ~ Les Brown
So anybody too afraid to put themselves out there, too afraid to fail. To some, I did just that. And even though it’s a bit disappointing, it’s still totally worth it.
It seems to me like life is always better when you go for big goals, because even if you miss them, the lessons you learn along the way make you a better person. ❤️
Ever want something really badly, and go after it with all you’ve got, only to come up short? 💚
I have, many times. And today, unfortunately for me, was no exception…yet despite feeling disappointed, there’s always a sense of accomplishment that comes with committing to a goal, regardless of the outcome. 👍
After going out strong and poised today, in the small lead group at the top of the big hill, nearly halfway through the race, I got a little hung-up on a funky strength-based obstacle (La Gaffe) but made it through and raced on with determination, still in the top four.
At a new ninja-based obstacle called DropZone, I took a risk to make up time and attempted to lache through it rather than monkey-bar it. It worked, until it don’t. I fell of near the end, my arms pumped, tried again right away and fell right off again (overconfident that my recent bout with golfers elbow hadn’t affected my overall strength and grip endurance very much). 😩
As I felt my big goal slip from my grasp, I closed my eyes and took a deep breath, shifting my mindset to finishing as well as I could, no matter the current circumstance, seeing it as a chance to practice the life skill of pivoting. 👍
With newfound energy, I took my friend on the sideline’s advice and persevered through the obstacle with a new technique, and then raced my heart out to run down the person in front of me. 💥
Although it’s easy to think that I did not train that hard all year to finish in seventh place, I also have enough respect for the women from around the world who finished ahead of me to know that seventh is still something to be proud of. 😊
Congrats to everyone who raced today, especially @krisruglowski (3rd), @lindsaywebster (2nd), and @idamatilde for bring him gold! 🏆 I’m happy for you three.
“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you land among the stars.” ~ Les Brown ⭐️
For anybody too afraid to put themselves out there, too afraid to fail, today essentially, I did just that. And even though it’s disappointing, of course, it’s still totally worth it. 💚
It seems to me like life is always better when you go for big goals, because even if you miss them, the lessons you learn along the way help you grow as a person. ❤️
I mean, training for this race got me to commit to two minutes a day of meditation (see blog link above), and it’s a habit I plan to keep up, so that’s a life win right there. 😁
Woohoo! Feels good to have done this for my goal of 101 days! I feel stellar, thanks in large part to the daily (albeit short) meditation and the morning high-five to self. Thanks for joining me on this journey. Time to take my best self and race my best!
Morning Stats
Yang/firing up:
high-five in the mirror
stood on one leg while brushing teeth, to activate glutes
cold shower
30 minute hike and three mile run
Yin/cooling down:
morning mantra: “My body is rested and my mind is clear. Today is going to be a wonderful day.”
3 minute meditation
20 minutes of Higher Ground Athletics mobility work
Driving from Keystone to Boulder to fly out to the OCRWC World Championships tomorrow, out of the Denver airport! Getting excited for my big race – it’s almost here!
Morning Stats
Yang/firing up:
high-five in the mirror
stood on one leg while brushing teeth, to activate glutes
cold shower
Yin/cooling down:
morning mantra: “My body is rested and my mind is clear. Today is going to be a stellar day.”
